By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
A healthy relationship supports you, spurs you onto higher heights, and makes you feel empowered. If your partner puts you down, feels superior to you, or is abusive in any way, you are in a toxic relationship.
When our relationships make us feel unworthy, controlled or don’t support our highest good, they are toxic. There are many reasons people become toxic. The most common is due to our family of origin. When we grow up in a family situation where one or both of our parents was abusive, controlling and made us responsible for their feelings, we end up replicating our parents behavior until we get help.
- Your partner says he loves you, yet his actions are not loving towards you.
- Your partner puts you down, degrades or criticises you.
- Your partner programs you to feel you can’t live without them.
- You change yourself in order to please your partner. This could be the way you dress, your friends, or even quitting your job.
- Each time you attempt to talk to your partner about something they get angry and make excuses why they can’t.
- You are afraid of your partner.
- Your partner keeps you away from friends and family.
- Your friends and family don’t think your partner is good for you.
- You feel you could not survive without your partner.
- Your partner finds something to get angry about when you are feeling good, or have accomplished a goal.
- Your partner blames you for a sexual dysfunction.
- Your partner would be happy with you if only………… you didn’t have kids, or would change in some way.
- Your self esteem is lower since you have been in this relationship.
- You keep secrets from friends and family about your relationship because you feel they would not understand.
- You feel like you are walking on eggshells around your partner.
- You have been depressed or unhappy since you have been in your relationship.
- Your partner is only sweet to you after he has hurt you or when he/she thinks you are leaving them.
- You are afraid to speak your truth.
- Your partner is jealous when there is no reason.
- Your partner has taken over the disciplining of their step children. Or wants you to send them to live with another parent.