By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
History repeats itself. The quote, “As you do one thing is how you do everything,” is an ongoing message for our lives. Ask yourself the following questions to see where this pattern appears in your life.
- Do you give to others more than you give to yourself?
- Do you keep yourself so busy that you are in avoidance of life events, resolving conflicts, pleasure, and conversations?
- Is your car clean, tidy and fresh smelling?
- Do you spend time working on your internal self as much as you work out at the gym?
- Do you take your vitamins daily?
- Do you spend time on things that don’t matter?
- Do you stay at home because you are avoiding relationships?
- Do you work all the time?
- Do you disapprove of yourself?
We often give to others more than we give to ourselves. This tendency puts other’s needs before ours, making us insignificant. If this is a pattern in your life, you may want to look at other co-dependent tendencies. When we give too much of ourselves to others, we end up feeling exhausted and even resentful because our loved ones have come to expect these things from us.
Taking care of yourself first, means that you will get enough rest, take time out and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.
When we are so busy with life, we often miss “living.” If you are too busy to have sex with your partner, play with your child, help with homework, have a conversation with a friend, it is time to prioritize. Children grow up, partners leave, and friends have their own lives too. Avoidance can be a sign of being emotionally unavailability. If you don’t want to “feel” pain, or emotions you could be avoiding all the areas and people that can bring you the most love and joy.
Uncluttered home, uncluttered mind, clean car, clear mind
If your home and car are cluttered, so is your mind. You have too many things going on all at the same time. We often create this mess so that we don’t have to look at our emotions. If our home and car is cluttered, focus, concentration and forward movement become impossible. Take one thing at a time. Clean out and wash your car. Tidy and pick up clutter in your home. Prioritize what is most important in your business. Take one thing at a time. A cluttered mind creates chaos in your world. You will find that you do not move forward, tend to vacillate with decision making and are unsuccessful in your business.
As within, so without
Do you spend hours at the gym, but no time in introspection? Or do you do the opposite, spend hours in meditation but no time exercising your physical body? Forgetting to eat or eating things you know are not in your highest and best interest? Feeding the physical body healthy life sustaining foods and taking care of our spiritual and emotional selves is important for our mind, body and spirit to be in balance.
Vitamins and Health
Many of us are healers, counselors and coaches. We give great advice to our clients, but often forget to take our vitamins. Taking your own advice is of great benefit to your health. Optimum health, optimum life. When we put our own health on the back burner, we are making ourselves unimportant. Take your own advice and take care of you first. This way, you will have so much more to give your family, business and clients.
You check your e-mail four times a day, but don’t have time to call your mother or best friend? We have all done it. Obsessing over the things that aren’t that important, we often miss the bigger picture, family and friends. Worry is the biggest time and energy waster. How much time do you spend envisioning all the horrible things that might happen? Life is short, wasting the time you have, means that you have less for the good stuff – like LOVE!
You say you want a relationship, but come home every night immediately after work. You avoid clubs, joining a team or a gathering where you could potentially meet your Beloved. You will never meet your guy or girl sitting in front of your television at home! If you have been reading carefully, this is a repeat of the first issue: avoidance. Avoiding living life fully means that you are missing out on joy, fun and possible happiness. Where else do you say, “NO” when you mean “YES!”?
Work, Work Work
If all you do is work and sleep, you are out of balance. Life is like a tightrope. It is a balancing act of recreation, work, pleasure, spirituality and fun. If you are missing out on any of these you are out of balance. You have to give to get, you have to be open to receive to receive love. If you are working all the time, you may be closed off to the possibility of love and joy. Do you say to yourself, “Oh, no one will ever love me.” or “No one will ever find me.” If you think these things you are right. The Universe will make you right.
Opportunity Knocks When You Are Open
In order to win the lottery, you have to buy a ticket. If you want love, but are never anywhere you will meet someone, you are telling yourself you are undeserving of, or unworthy of love. You are saying “NO” to the Universe when you are asking for things to change. You have to be open to receive in order to get what you want. You have to be receptive to new ideas, change and doing things differently, or you will get what you have always got.
Praise For YOU!
You may be kind to others, but self deprecating. You inner dialogue needs to reflect love to the outside world. When we beat ourselves up it is reflected in all that we are. We let the world and the Universe know we are undeserving and unworthy by our negative words and thoughts about ourselves. You are already beautiful, intelligent, talented and gifted. Isn’t it time you noticed?When you notice how wonderful you are, others will begin to notice also.
Much love to you. I would love to hear how these patterns play out in your world.
Jennifer is a life, love, and relationship coach. She is a teacher of life, love and wisdom. Her coaching style is compassionate and direct. If you are still pondering whether you need to work with a coach, e-mail your questions, or set up a discovery session. Jennifer has several different offerings right for any one’s budget. Her 6 week video course is $98. This workshop is a self study, with a weekly workbook that guides you into your inner journey to Love Yourself Fearlessly. For the next 30 days Jennifer is offering a free one-hour session when you sign up for this video course – a $225 value~ ! Contact Jennifer NOW!