By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
As a young woman we look at ourselves and our breasts and wonder, when will mine grow? Will I ever look like _______ (fill in the blank). Many men have issues with lack of confidence from being smaller in the package department than their peers. Breast implants, penile implants, facial surgery is a multi-billion dollar industry for a reason. People don’t love what they have and don’t love who they are. The issue of confidence still remains however, because it is an internal issue, rather than external one. Focusing on the inner rather than the outer is the way to remedy this issue. Hiring a coach can help you move beyond not feeling enough. You are already enough, you just aren’t aware that you are.
If your confidence is based on lack of something you are barking up the wrong tree. I dated a man who was a little smaller than average. I did not have an issue with this, but he did. At least once a day he would say to me that he had to make up for his size by performing better than average – or being a better lover. He was creating a mountain out of his mole hill. He made his issue bigger by focusing on it. A size issue is usually related to inner self worth, rather than a physical issue.
Have you ever noticed that when people have their stomach stapled they have a different issue crop up somewhere else. This is because they were focusing on a physical issue when the REAL problem was how they felt about themselves. Often the plastic surgery is done – and the low self esteem remains.
The key here is how we feel about ourselves. If you keep looking at your penis and saying, “It is too small!” you are perpetuating a myth. Most women are happy with the size of their men. It is the men who are not happy with their size.
Focusing on something repeatedly, that you feel is lacking creates low self esteem. Instead focus on being enough. What most people don’t realize is that when we feel we are not good enough, not worthy or not big enough creates a blocked root and second chakra. Our root chakra is the source of our security they way we are seen out in the world. The second chakra is all about manifesting. If these two chakras are blocked you will create or already have also created issues with money.
The root chakra is associated with the color red and is located in between the perineum and the base of the penis in men. In women between the anus and the vagina. The second chakra is located in between the pubis bone and the navel. For women it is associated with ovaries, reproduction and menstrual cycles. If your second chakra is blocked you may have issues with cramping and money.
Here are some ways to create confidence and raise your self esteem:
- Repeat this mantra upon awakening and just before going to sleep and any other time your mind is in neutral: I AM WORTHY.
- Focus on being enough. I AM ENOUGH!
- Love what you have. I LOVE MY BODY! Stand in front of the mirror every day, look into your own eyes and tell yourself – I LOVE MY BODY!
- Join me Wednesday night for my podcast to clear the first two chakras. (605) 475-4000 PIN 939401# at 5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM EST. Its FREE!
Remember if you don’t mention it most women will not even think it is too small. However, if you focus on it, speak about it you are creating an issue. This issue is one of self esteem. It is an internal rather than an external issue. When you feel good about yourself, it will cease to be an issue. Hire a coach to help you work through your issues of worthiness. Instead become great at oral sex. Learn how to bring a woman to orgasm manually – rather than through intercourse. Most women don’t orgasm through the vagina – learn to do things differently. There are ways to be a better lover. Read my book: Orgasm For Life ….. The No Holds-Barred Guide To Creating BLISS out on May 20th, 2014.
Jennifer is a certified Life, Sex and Empowerment Coach. She is the author of the forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life: The No Holds-Barred Guide For Creating BLISS. JenniferElizabethMasters.com