By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
Do you trust yourself? If you don’t trust yourself, you won’t trust others either.
You cannot trust in others what you do not trust in yourself.
When we shut our hearts down we block ourselves from falling in love. A closed heart also blocks us from making friends or even having joy. Instead of opening up to new experiences, we close ourselves down from all manner of wonderful things. Shutting our hearts down is saying “NO!” to the universe. To mend our broken hearts we need to learn to trust ourselves and learn to love again. When we protect ourselves, we are protecting ourselves from all manner of good as well. When we are in fear, we cannot be in faith. Not trusting others, means you don’t trust yourself either.
As humans we think that being vulnerable is a dangerous place. It is a faithless place. When we have no faith, we are in fear. We cannot experience the wonders of life when we are shut down. Energy always moves in a circle. When we don’t trust ourselves, our lives are filled with chaos, and drama.
Whatever is going on in our outside world is going on inside of us as well. Our feelings guide us. Fear blocks us from experiencing the wonder of life. Fear also blocks us from experiencing miracles. When we are in fear, it means absence of faith. When we are in fear, we try to control environment, our loved ones, our and even our workplace. When we control others, it does not allow them to be who they are. Controlling others is a precious waste of our energy. We THINK we are helping others when we try to control them, especially our spouses and lovers. Getting them to do things the way WE THINK they should be done, “Why don’t you do it this way!”
The more secure you are with yourself, the less you try to control
others.We often shut down and are unable to take action because of our fear. Fear blocks us and can cause us to feel trapped.
Allowing others to be who they are is far less exhausting than attempting to control them.
Remember CONTROL comes from fear. It is reflecting what is going on inside of us. When someone is trying to “help” you, give them compassion, they are in fear.
Sit quietly and witness what is going on in our bodies. Fear blocks us from feeling a lot of things. Our body can become rigid. Our breath becomes shortened. Our stomachs tighten. Courage is not exactly the absence of fear. Courage gives us the impetus to move through the fear that causes us to be stuck. When we are stuck, we are paralyzed and can’t move forward. You may still be afraid, but courage is what helps us to move forward, courage is what is behind you. Step forward and just move towards what you are afraid of. Freedom is just on the other side. When we are constantly doing, doing doing, we are trying to fill a void, perhaps even pretend not to be in fear. In this place of doing, we don’t stop and just be….
Hundreds of years ago, there was no electricity. There would be only candle power. When the candle burned down, it was time to go to bed. We would be outside more than 50% of our day. Today, we are living an unnatural existence. We can’t go shopping without a telephone in our pocket. It is causing stress in our body, cancer and diseases. In this doing, we fill our minds with tasks that waste our energy. We are not paying attention to the guidance we receive. We are not asking questions in stillness. If we listen and feel, we will have a sense of knowing. Stillness, and quiet is when guidance comes through. Today, energy is so much more subtle. 20 years ago our guides might have shouted at us. We have to be quiet to hear the still small voice.
Sit with your head straight, chin parallel to the ground. Do not turn your face upward. With your eyes only, look up at the ceiling. This
may feel a little strenuous on the eye muscles, but it will quiet the mind chatter. Keep looking up at the ceiling for about 3 – 5 minutes.
Quiet reflection can heal, lower blood pressure and make you feel happier. While you are sitting, what do you hear? Sitting in stillness will fill you with peace. How do you quiet your mind enough to sit still? It is a very good time to connect with your guides. It is a great time to ask for your angels to assist you. How do you know if it is guidance? How do you know it is not a dark energy? Ask to be connected with only the highest of high to enter your energy field. What do you sense? Do you see pictures? Are you hearing phrases. Write everything down in a journal. As you sit in silence, your confidence will build. Trust in yourself will continue to grow. It is your God self. Communing in this way will connect you with your high self. Everyone has the ability to do so. We just need to be reminded.
Be The Witness
Relax and breathe. Sitting in stillness do not judge our thoughts. We just relax and breathe. Relax your shoulders a little more. Am I comfortable? What am I feeling? What response is your body giving you? Is your stomach tight? Are you feeling stressed? If you are feeling stressed, turn the corners of your mouth upwards, in a smile. Are you yawning? What messages is your body giving you. If your stomach is tight, you need to relax some
|Ghats of Varanasii
more. I call this “sinking in.” Meditating does not require you to go up and out of your body. I used to think to meditate you needed to go up and out of my body. When I did, people thought that I had a lot of frenetic energy and that I was a flake. That is not so. The more grounded you are, the more connected you are. As you begin to feel more comfortable being in this stillness, you can add a little more time. Every human has the ability to meditate.
Leave your animals out of the room, when you begin to meditate,
as they can disturb your energy and distract you. Respectfully, leave the cat and dog outside the door.
How does meditating affect trust?
Sitting in silence, is a deep journey inward, which expands your consciousness and connects you to your high self. It connects you with your true self. The more often that you sit in silence the more
|Meditating at sunrise on the Ganges River
you will begin to trust yourself. Communing in this way, you will begin to receive guidance. Rather than challenge the guidance, trust it. Write down what you see and hear. Did you listen to the guidance? What happened? If you didn’t listen to the guidance, what was the outcome?
A Story of Guidance Received and Ignored
I used to argue with the guidance I received. I was very stubborn. I challenged the messages I received. When my children were 5 and 7. I did not trust myself or the guidance I received. I had a gut feeling to not allow my aupair to have my car. She was returning to Germany at the weekend. Whenever I began to think about her driving my car, I got a sinking feeling in my stomach. When she asked if her friend could come along, again, I had that sinking feeling in my stomach. My oldest son convinced me that I should allow them to go to the skating rink with her. I made arrangements to get a ride to work and left my little Volkswagen Golf with her (which was
paid for, I might add). Half way through my morning, my boss called me into his office to take a phone call. He stood nearby while I heard the emergency personnel telling me my children in an accident and were being transported on backboards to Scottish Rite children’s hospital by ambulance. I found them all in the emergency room. My babysitter and her friend were okay. My children survived. However, they were pretty banged up. The point is, I had intuitive guidance and I ignored it. In fact, I went against it. This event was a game-changer for me. I found out later that she had turned to talk to her friend and did not see the light change to red. She was clobbered and side-swiped because she was not paying attention. My car was completely totaled.
We are never so vulnerable then when we trust someone, but paradoxically, when we cannot trust neither will we find love or joy. Walter Anderson
Definition of trust (n)
- reliance: confidence in and reliance on good qualities, especially fairness, truth, honor, or ability
- position of obligation: the position of somebody who is expected by others to behave responsibly or honorably
- hope for future: hopeful reliance on what will happen in the future
In the absence of trust, you do not love yourself. The absence of trust means lack of confidence and lack of self love. In love and in life, our vulnerability is one of our greatest strengths. When we build walls, we miss out on love and we certainly miss out on joy. I was raised by a father who did not trust. He was suspicious of everyone. He raised me to not trust. It took me a long while to learn to trust. When I did, new worlds opened up for me. When we think that something will be stolen from us, or removed from us, we are constantly in fear. Then we cannot follow our hearts because we are afraid of what might happen. We think we are protecting ourselves from ridicule, failure, or having to follow through, or heaven forbid, being taken advantage of. When fears permeate everyday life, we don’t trust ourselves and we don’t trust others. We have created barriers to living life fully. We are limiting ourselves. Often we won’t even talk to people, because we are concerned that they won’t be interested in us, or they won’t love us back. We won’t go for a job interview, because we are afraid of rejection.
If you consciously choose to be open and trusting, using your instinct or intuition as your guide, you will not be shut down by someone who does not deserve your trust. Thinking that it is never safe to trust again, closes you down from experiencing wonderful opportunities. If you have ever been lied to or cheated on, it can be difficult to begin to trust. However, saying that you will never trust again, never get married again, you are saying “No!” to the universe. It is not weak to admit that we fear rejection. But saying that all men can’t be trusted is saying no to the universe. If you are saying that all men can’t be trusted, you are actually saying you can’t be trusted.
Judging yourself from the lessons learned in the past is not being kind to you. When we continue to carry hurt with us, everywhere we go, we are blocking ourselves. It can deprive ourselves from feeling loved and having emotional wellness. Relationships are our biggest teachers. Trust yourself enough to open up to love. It might be your game-changer. Here is the link to the audio file again.
Jennifer is an author, with a large toolbox of healing modalities that she blends beautifully into all she does and shares. She has an innate ability of cutting to the root of your issues with amazing speed and compassion. She works with codependency, addictions, low self esteem, anxiety, depression, control issues, and those you want to become enlightened, or learn to meditate and quiet their mind chatter. Jennifer is a healed healer, having overcome her own trauma, pain, suffering and loneliness. Now she no longer experiences suffering, loneliness or depression. She lives each day in joy and happiness. She can guide you to do the same. Her private e-mail is: [email protected]