When our hearts are broken we say things that create more pain and torture for ourselves. It is easy to blame others for the past. When we continue to believe that things will never change, we are correct. Whatever we believe, we create. Situations will be magnetized to us, for the thoughts that we think as well as the feelings and beliefs that we have. Life, is always working FOR us, rather than against us. Repeating statements that are negative set those negative beliefs in stone. There are ways to change what we think, and believe. We have the ability to move out of these patterns of self torture and self sabotage.
Take The Leap
It does not serve you to beat yourself up. It only makes you feel bad. You have the choice. Stay the negative course, thinking negatively, or DECIDE to change your thoughts and begin making positive steps toward self love and acceptance. Below are real statements that I have heard people say about themselves, their relationships, and beliefs. These statements are usually spoken with vehemence + emotion = creation! Knowing that we create with our thoughts, and emotions, these will disempower, creating more negative events.
Stop telling yourself the following:
- I won’t ever love another.
- I don’t want anybody else.
- I won’t ever have love!
- I have never had a relationship and I won’t ever have one!
- I’m too old for anyone to see a future with me now!
- You were my last shot at love, nobody is going to want some broken old man!
- I am the worst human ever! I can’t go home again.
- No one wants me.
- I am just not good enough for love.
- I will always be alone.
- I am destined to be alone forever.
- I am too ______ for anyone to want me.
Life doesn’t have to be so hard. We make it difficult by thinking self condemning thoughts about ourselves and others. If we are critical of others, we are critical of ourselves.
I remember when I felt so bad about myself, that all my thoughts were negative. When I was feeling negative, it was hard to rise up and speak positive things over myself and my life. I remember when I used to compare myself to others. Comparing made me feel less intelligent, attractive and made me feel very unhappy. I don’t do that anymore. I no longer focus on what others think of me. What others think of us, is none of our business. When we compare ourselves to others, we feel less than them. Comparing ourselves to others makes us feel broken, unworthy and inadequate.
experience. There is only one you. You are perfect and unique the way you are. Remember to think of yourself as a unique expression of The Divine. There are no mistakes and no errors. How we look at ourselves, is up to us.
Positive Affirmations
- I am lovable.
- I have a purpose here on earth.
- I am worthy of love.
- I am a beautiful human being.
- I am beautiful inside and out.
- I am lovable.
- I am loving and supportive of myself and my life.
- I know that love will come to me when I truly love and accept myself, completely.
- I am loving and kind.
- I am perfect as I am.
- I am a beautiful child of God.
- God does not create junk. Therefore I am beautiful.
- God does not make mistakes.
- I am perfect as I am.
- I feel myself filling with light and love as I speak these statements.
- I am love.
- I am light.
- I am love itself.
- I am worthy of a loving relationship.
- I love and approve of myself.
- I am perfect as I am.
- I am worth my own time and energy.
- I deserve my loving kindness.
- I am intelligent.
- I am talented.
- I am creative.
- I am kind.
- I am here for a purpose.
- The more loving kindness I speak over myself, the more positive I feel.
- I choose to love myself unconditionally beginning right now!
mind. Repeating these positive statements when our mind is in neutral allows them to slip past the gatekeeper of the unconscious mind. Our mind is in neutral when we are doing things automatically, like peeling or chopping vegetables, showering, putting on makeup, shaving or driving.