5 Ways To Keep Love Hot and Connected

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When people are loving and connected, they are wonderful to be around. Watching how they interact can teach us so much about what works and what does not.  Couples who are connected touch each other often, have secret signals across the room and speak lovingly to each other. They don’t nag or bitch about little things. In fact they let the little things go, as they know in the end they are not important.


It is very easy to get into a rut in our relationships. There are many ways that this occurs. Keeping love alive and connected does not happen when we blame, complain or nag. When we live alone, we have no one to blame for  the garbage not being taken out, or the clothes all over the house. There is no one around to clean up after us, or do the chores. We have to take responsibility for ourselves, and being happy.  In our relationships, we have to continue to take responsibility for ourselves, our chores and our own happiness. It is up to us to be happy. If we don’t take care of ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to either?


Notice how the couple above, pictured are reciprocating their affection. He is holding her, as she is holding him. When one party does not bother to embrace, or give back, they are closed, often angry or resentful, blaming the other for the way they feel, rather than taking responsibility for their own emotional wounding. 

Everyone has hurts, pain and suffers at some point in their lives. Moving beyond that place of suffering and wounding takes some courage but can be done. Moving out of pain, suffering or stagnation is a choice. By choosing to be happy, hiring a coach to help us, can speed up the process. I did it without a coach, but it took me over 30 years. Sometimes, we need to take someone’s hand and have them lift us up, ask us the questions that get us to think out of the box we have created for ourselves.

There is a big difference in couples who are connected and those who are not. Couples who are connected recognize that their spouse

is not perfect. They overlook their flaws and faults, rather than focus on them. They are accepting of their partner the way they are. They also have a grounding in the spiritual. Whether it is through beliefs, meditation, or spiritual practice. They connect through the spiritual. A spiritual connection deepens all other areas of the relationship. A connection with the community also upholds their relationship further expanding their love.

We need friends as well as our partner to have balanced, healthy, uplifting, nurturing relationships. When two people shut out the world, they have no one to fall back on, and their relationship will implode. We need a community, not just each other to survive and thrive. Relationships that exclude others are intensely codependent and often abusive.


If you do the following you will create more ease, togetherness and connectedness in your relationship. When we connect on all levels, continuing to expand with personal growth and spirituality daily, we avoid the trap of stagnation. We do not take each other for granted.

  1. Take responsibility for yourself and your own happiness. No one else can make us happy. Happiness is a choice, as is the choice to love someone. Choose to be happy and loving every day. 
  2. Give. When we give to ourselves, we will also be generous to our loved ones. When we are stingy with ourselves, with time, and energy, we will also be stingy with our love and acceptance of others. A generous loving spirit has an open heart. Is loving and accepting.
  3. Make eye contact with your partner. Many people in long-term marriages stop looking into each others eyes. They also stop kissing, hand holding and giving each other a squeeze every now and then. When you are making love, instead of closing

    your eyes, look at your partner. Watch them when you are on top of them. Open your eyes. With eyes wide open we see into their souls and connect deeply, rather than closing our eyes and shutting them out, perhaps even thinking or fantasizing about someone else.

  4. Meditate together. Pray together. Meditation can create a deeply connected relationship. Often we want to keep that personal, which is okay to a point. However, meditating together once a week or more, connects the two of you, grounding the spiritual into your relationship. Yes, our connection with God, The Divine, or whatever you call it is a personal one. Bringing your partner into your spiritual practice at least once a week includes them rather than excludes them.
  5. Learn, grow and play together. Taking courses together or apart can give us interesting events to talk about and share with one another. A cooking or dance class can expand our connection as we learn together. Learning adds a new dimension to our relationships. Remember when you were dating? You did fun activities together that bonded you. Staying bonded requires continued learning and growth, always onward and upward. We don’t have to do everything together, but sharing some common activities is important. As long as we are in a physical body we will continue to expand and grow. If we are not expanding and growing, we are actually dying. There are only two ways to go here. Our brain

    will start to atrophy, just like our muscles will from lack of use. We are never too old to learn something new, nor is it ever too late. My 92 year old mother reads 6, count ’em SIX books a week. She also does puzzles and word games to keep her mind active. She is just as sharp, if not sharper now then when she was in her 30’s. She is infinitely more intuitive, loving and kinder as well. It is NEVER TOO LATE!

As a caveat to this article, I had a brush with death on Friday. I tell this story because we never know how much time we have left on this planet. It can all be taken away in a flash! We only have this moment now.

I live 11 miles away from the next largest town. On Friday, February 20th, 2015, I drove into town to get my oil changed.  As I exited the off ramp, the light was red. I sat patiently, waiting for the light to change. I noticed that the homeless man that was usually standing at the corner was not there. My radio was off and my dogs were safely at home, which was unusual. I normally take my two dogs everywhere. The light changed to green. Looking straight ahead, as we do, I began to enter the subdivision. I felt the overwhelming need to look left as I inched into the intersection. As I did, I saw a white Toyota or Mustang speeding towards me racing to beat the red light, doing at least 65 miles per hour. If I had not stopped to check left, he would have broadsided me and I would have been killed. Just because we have the right to move forward, does others will be doing what they need to do. 

I was seconds away from the garage. When I arrived, I was so grateful to be alive, I shared my gratitude with the mechanic that was taking my information. He told me that a man had been killed in the exact same spot the night before, crossing the street on foot. He was 34 years old. The same thing happened to him. A car came from out of nowhere speeding at almost 70 miles an hour. I was not meant to die. I was meant to get a strong message. Every single day we have on this earth is a gift. Every chance we have to love, make love and share our love with others is also a gift. If you are not loving and giving, you are not living. If you have difficulty with love, anger, or resentment, or even feeling happy, isn’t it time, you contacted me? How much longer are you prepared to be unhappy, unloved, or unloving?

The energy of that crash was still sitting in the intersection. Energies from past events get stuck in our energy field, our emotional body and spiritual body. If those stuck emotions are not cleared, they continue to reverberate causing us emotional crashes and sabotaging us and our relationships. 

This is a perfect example of why we need to have our energy field cleared. I highly recommend that everyone get an energy clearing on a regular basis to clean up the debris that is hanging on causing issues in our lives. I have done thousands of energy clearings for my clients. In 2014, I did over 1,500 clearings alone. To answer your question, yes, I have cleared the intersection.

Want to try an energy clearing? Jennifer is doing a group clearing on Wednesday, February 25th at 8:00 PM – 9:00 PM EST. If you are interested in attending this group clearing, you will receive an audio that you can replay again and again. Blocks to receiving love, blocks to success and financial freedom will be cleared as well as trapped emotions. Although, I can’t guarantee ALL your blocks will be cleared, I will clear over 200 different blocks and over 10 trapped emotions. This clearing will be recorded. My normal coaching sessions are $225 an hour. This clearing is only $20.00 for 45 minutes. The rest of the hour I will answer questions and add personal blocks that I pick up from doing the previous 45 minutes.

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I am grateful to you for being here. I am grateful to you for buying my book. If you have not gotten your copy, of this Divinely inspired guide book to having and creating the most loving, sensual and connected relationship, you need to. Buy it here on Amazon.com now! You will be glad you did. It will inspire you,

make you laugh and help you understand you and your partner better in a loving direct way. Orgasm For Life, the no holds-barred guide to creating passion and connection in your relationship. If you don’t have one, e-mail me, I have the path for that too, through my Love Yourself Fearlessly course. I have yet to see anyone who has gone through this course NOT find love. If you have a question, or wonder if Jennifer’s work is right for you, you can e-mail her here: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

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