Long weekends give us an opportunity to chill out, cook out and let down. Many people take road trips, go to the beach or camp out. Friends, family, and loved ones might gather, or you may decide, like I did, to stay at home, avoid the madness and watch a few movies. Men I have written this for you!
Italians, Spanish, and most Latins like to take their time with sex. Unlike most Americans that are so focused on instant gratification, rushing to reach an orgasm. A steady diet of quickies could be leaving your partner flat and unsatisfied.
Looking for scintillating sex? The longer the sex act lasts, the higher your excitement and stronger the orgasm. Slow sex is much more enjoyable as women usually don’t go from zero to orgasmic in less than twenty to forty minutes. If your sexual encounters are over in less than 20 minutes, it is likely that your partner isn’t having near as much fun or pleasure as you. Watch a few European movies witness the tenderness that most Americans lack.
I have a recommendation for you. Watch Mostly Martha and see what you have been missing. It is available on Netflix. Here it is called Bella Martha. Yes, it has subtitles, but the movie is so well acted that you will quickly forget that it is in German. For the porn watchers in the group, this movie involves falling in love, connection, and romance. There is something for everyone in this movie.
- When was the last time you spent more than five minutes kissing your partner?
- Do you touch her face when you kiss her?
- Have you ever slowly touched your partner and just watched her face, or reaction?
- When did you last give her a full body massage before entering her? A massage can give her time to enjoy your touch, warm up to the idea of making love.
- Do you ask her what feels good?
- Are you giving your partner what she needs?
- How much time do you spend on foreplay? If it is less than 20 minutes, she most likely isn’t getting what she needs.
- Do you have the attitude if she’s wet, she’s ready to go?
- Are you able to be affectionate outside the bedroom, so she doesn’t feel you only touch her when you want sex?
- Do you look her in the eyes when you have conversations?
- What are you afraid of?
- Do you make sex about pleasuring her? Or do you focus only on what you are getting?
- Do you bristle at your partner’s touch?
- Do you know what turns you on?
- Are you asking for what you need or want?
- If you can’t bare the thought of sex, kissing or his touch, what issues have you not brought to his attention?
- What are you afraid of? Talking about your issues may be a little uncomfortable at first, the air will not be cleared without it. Communication is key to understanding what is going on inside of you.
- Do you expect your partner to just know? Even if he is a mind-reader, open communication is the best way to talk about your issues outside of the bedroom so that you can have deeper intimacy and connection in the bedroom.
- Do you remember what attracted you to him in the first place?
- How much attention do you give others?
How much time, attention and tenderness are you giving your partner?
- What do you do to distance yourself from your partner?
- How can you let go of your fear of intimacy so that you can have a deeper more meaningful connection?
- Are you aware that your partner wants to connect with you sexually to feel close to you, and will be more open to deep conversations if you have regular sex?
- Did you know that the more often you have sex, the more you will want it? Regular sex gets your hormones working the way that they are meant to. Sex and pleasure are possible well into your 80’s, don’t say EW!