The Happiest Couples In The World Talk About These 9 Things
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By Nick Bastion / Vixen Daily
You know what good relationships are all about?
It’s not necessarily about chemistry, or compatibility, or even attraction most of the time.
Most of the time, when you look at what makes relationships REALLY good – it comes down to
communication.
It comes down to how well you can talk to each other, and more importantly…
…WHAT you talk about.
Science backs me up here – there was a study published in the journal Psychological Science that found that couples who mostly stick to the small stuff when they talk wind up much less happy than couples who get into the deep stuff.
The happiest couples on earth spend only 10% of their time with each other talking about unimportant small stuff like the weather. Meanwhile – the unhappiest couples talk about the small stuff more than 30% of the time.
It’s important to find out the things happy couples talk about.
Let me break it down for you. Here are the 9 things that the happiest, most satisfied couples on earth
talk about:
1. The State Of The World
I said BIG topics, didn’t I?
The happiest couples talk about what’s going on around them – whether it’s on the local level or the
worldwide level.
They share an interest in the world outside their home and talk through major issues and events with
each other to share their views and let each other be heard.
And their relationships wind up stronger for it.
2. How You See The Future
Talking about the future can be a scary topic in a relationship – especially when you’re not 100% sure how he feels about you.
But if you don’t talk about the future, how can you ever possibly know where you stand?
The strongest couples don’t shy away from talking about the future with each other – and making firm plans that involve each other. If you can’t talk about the future with him, your relationship might not have one.
3. Embarrassing Moments From Life
One of the best parts of a relationship is having someone you can share ANYTHING with – even if it was
a super embarrassing moment you’d rather forget.
So if you’ve got a childhood memory that still makes your ears burn, share it with him. Chances are, he’s
got a memory that trumps yours – and you’ll both feel better for having shared them with each other.
4. TV, Movies, And Other Entertainment
I’m not counting this as small talk – even though some people might.
To me, taste in movies, TV and entertainment matter. It helps when you both like the same things – but barring that, it helps when you can at least see each other’s perspectives and opinions.
Plus, discovering that you both LOVE tense political dramas is a great moment – and foretells lots of
happy nights curled up on the couch with each other.
5. Your Biggest Fears
One of the most important things to do in any relationship is to share yourself completely with your
partner – to better allow him to share himself completely with you.
And yes, that includes your fears. If you can’t allow yourself to be vulnerable around the person you’re supposed to trust with everything, where can you be vulnerable?
Summon up your courage and share what you’re truly afraid of with him. He’ll do the same – and it will bring you closer together.
6. What’s Going On In Politics
This is a scary subject for a lot of people – there’s a reason its one of the biggest ones avoided at
parties.
But being in a relationship is about being respectful and listening to each other – even when you don’t agree. Even if you’ve got opposing views, it’s good to talk about them with each other in a respectful way, so that you get the opposing viewpoint from someone you respect.
Plus, it’s a great way to practice patience and positivity with each other – if you disagree that is.
7. Your Childhoods
Things that happen in your childhoods shape the people you are today. How are you supposed to know who your partner really is without knowing what went into making him the person he is now?
Talk to each other about your childhoods… the things you remember and the things you wish you could forget. Sharing such an intimate part of your lives is a great way to bring yourselves closer together.
8. Your Romantic Pasts
This probably isn’t something to bring up on a first date – but if you’re in a serious relationship with
someone, it helps to know what happened to them romantically over his life – just like it helps him to
know where you’re coming from.
Talking about exes – what happened, where you went wrong, where they made mistakes, and why
things ended up the way they did, gives you and your partner valuable information about how to get
things right THIS time, in THIS relationship.
That way, you don’t wind up repeating mistakes of the past, and instead make happy memories and
plans for the future.
9. What Your Families Are Like
When you put together a list of the most important, influential people in someone’s life – family is
almost always at the very top of the list.
These people make you who you are – no matter how infuriating, frustrating, and aggravating they can be sometimes.
Share with each other about your relationships with your family – it will give you both huge insight into how you view relationships and what to do to keep each other happy.
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