Women think that they know what they want. We look for and seek out the sexy, hard edged bad boy. When he treats us badly and sleeps with our best friend, or mother, we wonder what the hell happened? Yet, what do we expect? We picked someone who is a rebel, selfish, self centered and disloyal.
Why are some women like the moth to the flame? We can’t wait to self destruct? Afterwards, we cry to our friends about what an ass hole the guy was. When unconsciously we knew all along that this person would show us his true colors.
These bad boys are only a reflection of the inner workings of our mind. We feel unworthy for someone who will treat us like a Queen, so we attract a man who will show us our unworthiness. They will prove to us that a man can’t be faithful to us. We feel undeserving, and they reflect that right back to us. These men don’t apologize and are never at fault, they blame their women for their issues, whether they are alcohol related or sexual indiscretions.
We don’t accept ourselves as we are. If you are one of these women who always seems to lean towards the bad boys, this is showing you your own lack of self-worth. We constantly tell ourselves we are not good enough. We beat ourselves up, looking to be perfect but miss the mark entirely.
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Focusing on what others think shows you that you have not stepped into your personal power. Your power is in there, under the insecurities. It needs to be dusted off so that you can see your sparkly interior. Seeing the beauty within you, loving what you see, rather than chastising yourself, or feeling loathing or hatred when you look at yourself naked is key. We have to love all of us, not just a piece or a portion. We can’t cut off an arm, leg or a part of ourselves that we don’t like. We all have faults, personality traits that aren’t stellar and they need some tender loving care.
Instead loving acceptance and compassion for who we are leads to fulfillment and internal permanent happiness.
I didn’t respect myself and they were disrespectful to me. It was all mirrored right back to me. All they were doing was reflecting back to me my internal circuitry of insecurity, lack of self-worth and self-hatred.
I thought I loved myself. I didn’t. Loving yourself is not just saying, “I love me.” It is feeling it in the depth of your soul from the deepest part of your being.
When you love yourself, you love life. You have a passion for living that makes everything come alive. Your purpose is evident. You live on purpose each day in every moment. You live in the present connected to your own Divinity within you. You feel connected to everything and love everyone. Loving acceptance of you, means you stop judging and CRITICISING yourself and everyone else as well.
When you love yourself you see the beauty in others as well as within.
Until we heal and turn the page on our past, we keep bringing it into our future. JEM
When we attempt to find someone else to fill ourselves up and complete us, we end up attracting another person who has low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem are usually wounded.
Wounded people hurt others. JEM
I did not have to control everything and everyone. I didn’t have to try and change my partner, my children or my mother or make anyone better. I was in denial of my own sense of worth. It was far easier to look at others and see all their imperfections thinking that I was helping them.
When I began to realize that every relationship I had was just a reflection of how I felt about myself, my world began to change. JEM
I realized I was not a victim. Everyone was not out to get me, as I previously thought. The Universe was not hateful. It was just boomeranging the thoughts that I had about me.
When I began to focus on positive thoughts and asked questions instead of making closed-ended statements, it was like magic.
Good things began to materialize for me in all areas of my life. Instead of saying to myself life is hard, I began to see how life worked FOR ME! I began to manifest in the moment when I asked:
“How can I effortlessly and easily attract someone who loves me unconditionally?”
What Are Closed-Ended Statements?
- Life isn’t fair.
- The world isn’t a safe place.
- Men/women always cheat on me.
- Everyone is out to get me.
- No one will ever love me.
- I am too old.
- I am too fat.
- I am not attractive.
- There is no one out there for me.
- I am always alone.
- I will always be alone.
- I will never find love.
When someone cuts you off on the road, if you get angry it is not that they are doing something TO YOU, your internal issues of being powerless are coming up for you to see. You are not powerless. Obviously, that person was in a much bigger hurry and needed to get where they were going faster than you. That is all. Take care of you. Give to you, rather than everyone else first. Often people-pleasing women are the ones who keep attracting men who cheat, lie and leave. Give yourself acceptance and forgiveness.
- Let go of trying to be perfect.
- Ask yourself, “How do I lie and cheat myself?”
- Stop worrying about what others think about you.
- Stop trying to please others. You will end up resentful and angry.
- Look at yourself with eyes of love.
- Stop beating yourself up with thoughts and words.
- Soften your focus. Think of yourself as a newborn baby. You would not beat up, or think negatively about a newborn baby, neither should you of yourself.
- Know you are already ENOUGH!
- You are WORTHY!
- You are lovable!
Let go of the baseball bat and the magnifying glass that you view yourself through. Jennifer has healed her own self-loathing and low self-esteem. She has been where you are and has compassion and understanding for you. At the same time, Jennifer will be direct, clear and help you see things differently. If you are ready to have permanent and lasting happiness, positivity in all areas of your life and live your soul purpose, you have come to the right place.
Her latest is Orgasm For Life available on Amazon.com. Jennifer is a healed healer, having healed past childhood trauma and sexual abuse, sexual dysfunction, and depression. When she began to love herself, her pain, illness, diseases – Fibromyalgia, and Epstein-Barr syndrome magically disappeared. Your thoughts create illness and pain in your body. Healing self-loathing can heal the pain in your body as well as change your life.
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