Do You Really Create Your Reality?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Have you ever noticed that happy people seem to leap through life attracting beautiful experiences to them while those that are unhappy tend to attract people they don’t get along with, challenges and more problems? 

Perhaps the best way for me to explain my experience of this phenomenon is to take you back in time to before I was born. I will do so in the course of this article. But first, let’s look at the Scientific data for those with minds that require documented proof.

Dr. Emoto experimented with consciousness and intent using water as a medium to prove or disprove his theory. What he discovered was that words, music, and prayer applied to water had a powerful effect, changing its shape in frozen crystallized form. The video below illustrates his experiment. The human body is comprised of 60% water. Human blood is 90% water. If thoughts impact water as much as Dr. Emoto found, imagine what you are doing to your body with the thoughts you think daily. 

Remember 95% of thoughts are unconscious meaning unless you govern your conscious mind carefully and use mantras to heal the unconscious mind it is running amok with negativity.

Dr. Emoto died October 17, 2014. His work on earth was completed.

Others in the Scientific arena have experimented and documented the results of their findings which illustrate that when we put our attention or intention on something we create what we observe or intend. Just the simple fact that scientists were watching an experiment changed the end result.

“A fundamental conclusion of the new physics also acknowledges that the observer creates the reality. As observers, we are personally involved with the creation of our own reality. Physicists are being forced to admit that the universe is a “mental” construction. Pioneering physicist Sir James Jeans wrote: “The stream of knowledge is heading toward a non-mechanical reality; the universe begins to look more like a great thought than like a great machine. Mind no longer appears to be an accidental intruder into the realm of matter, we ought rather hail it as the creator and governor of the realm of matter. Get over it, and accept the inarguable conclusion. The universe is immaterial-mental and spiritual.”  – R.C. Henry, Professor of Physics and Astronomy at Johns Hopkins University ,  “The Mental Universe” ; Nature 436:29,2005) (source)
How I Created My Life of Suffering and Abuse

Even before we are born our mother’s influence us with their fears. My mother felt unloved and unlovable. She was an orphan at the age of five. My mother was abandoned by her parents (through death), felt like a victim, was consequently raped at the age of twelve and molested by her brother-in-law. Her belief was that she was a victim, unloved, unlovable and that men would abuse, hurt her and then leave her. 

She passed these beliefs on to me while I was in utero, as her mother and grandmother before her passed their fears onto her.

My mother was suspicious, fearful, had a hatred of men and felt like a victim. She felt the world was unsafe and continued to focus on her parents dying. Her focus was on abandonment and not being loved. 

As soon as I was born, my mother felt regret. She had hoped for a boy and I was certainly not that. I was unwanted because I was born the wrong sex. I was fearful, felt like a victim, I felt unlovable, constantly vying for the attention of my parents. Interestingly, I was born during a Venus Retrograde a time astrologically speaking, there was no love. 

Since my mother felt men only wanted one thing, victimhood was the common thread between us. She rejected my father, in many different ways though he loved her. My mother’s perspective was that she was unloved. Even though my father loved her, she couldn’t feel it. Her focus was on not being loved.

You Create Your Own Reality

I felt unloved. I felt like a victim. I felt guilty and ashamed. I was crippled by my fears. 

I created what I focused on. 
I thoughts others wouldn’t like me, so they didn’t.

I was afraid of the dark, afraid of what was under my bed and in my closet. I was afraid of my parents. I was afraid no one would like me. I felt the world was unsafe for me, so it wasn’t safe.

My fears of being unloved surfaced with teachers, friends and in the world. I was victimized repeatedly by men and children in the neighborhood. 

The Purpose of Trauma

Everyone experiences trauma at some time in their lives. This trauma is the impetus for us to feel joy rather than suffer. 

Trauma makes us search for a deeper meaning to life. 

We have a survival instinct. Surviving trauma makes us stronger, rather than weak. We rise above the trauma of the past recognizing its purpose is to be the catalyst for our growth, expansion, and enlightenment.  

My trauma made me strong. I overcame my suffering. I let go of the past. I recognized the gift in it all. I stopped blaming my parents for my pain.

Avoiding Pain causes us more pain.
Focus on (the feelings) we are trying to avoid instead.


Have you ever played a game where you look for a particular color car on the highway? When you begin to watch only for red cars, you are amazed at how many red cars there are. When you are looking for white cars, all you notice is the white cars. The same holds true for life experiences. What you pay attention to is what you see. Your perspective changes everything. 

When you see that life is working for you, rather than against you everything changes. JEM

When We Focus On The Problem

Wherever we give our attention expands even when it is negative. All we can see is where we are currently focusing. 

Think about not having enough money to make your house or rent payment. When you go into that feeling of not having enough, you are in lack consciousness. Your focus is on the problem. Or maybe you place your bills in a stack and forget about them, thinking they will go away. Avoiding the bills creates more pain.

You worry about what will happen if you don’t make your payment on time. You conjure up all kinds or scenarios and worry about the domino effect of not making your payment. You might worry about losing your home. What if you get foreclosed on or evicted? What will happen then? How will you work? How can you work if you don’t have a place to live? All these thoughts create more problems down the road.

Instead, Put Your Attention On The Solution

When we focus on the problem, we create more problems. Instead, focus on the solution by asking questions. 

  • How can I effortlessly and easily have enough to pay my rent with plenty of money leftover?
  • How can I easily have enough to pay all my bills on time?
  • How can I easily find someone who loves me for who I am?
  • How can I easily find a job that I love for the perfect pay?
  • I wonder how I can easily and effortlessly find joy being me?
  • I wonder how I can make money by being me?

All We Have Is Our WORD

Most of us don’t realize how we create shame and guilt by not keeping our word. 

The biggest shift for me came when I began to be in complete integrity. Shame and guilt became a thing of the past. 

Being In Integrity Shifts Our Reality

I did what I said I would do. I kept commitments. I stopped lying to myself and others. I took responsibility for my life, my health and everything I said. I stopped arriving late. I stopped making excuses. I stopped blaming others for what happened. I stopped worrying about what others thoughts of me. I stopped dating men who were in the middle of a divorceI stopped avoiding my feelings. I felt my emotions fully and allowed them to flow through me. 

Raising Awareness Helps Us Create What We Want

I became aware of what I was saying.

I began to notice what I was thinking.

I boldly stepped into responsibility. I stopped trying to make others happy and allowed them to do so for themselves.

Instead of living in fear, I became courageous and fearless!

Instead of focusing on the past, I focused on the positive inviting better experiences in for me. 

I became an open book, rather than keeping secrets out of fear.
    Suffering Is Optional!

    When we attempt to avoid our feelings, we suffer. Only when we can feel our feelings fully can we move through them to the other side into joy. Many people avoid their feelings because they are afraid. Working with a compassionate practitioner who is unafraid can help you work through your feelings in a safe environment.

    You Aren’t Exempt

    Whether you like it or not, you are creating your own reality. Begin to notice what you are thinking. When you recognize that you are creating from a place of fear (which blocks you) shift your thoughts to something more positively creative. 

    Mojave Desert, California

    Why Do We Experience Pain?

    We live in a world of contrast. Contrast is necessary to show us what we have or don’t have. If everything was perfect and beautiful all the time, there would be no room for growth. If the sun shone all the time, you wouldn’t recognize that clouds offer shade and the rain feeds the earth and its inhabitants. 

    Alpharetta, Georgia

    Living in the desert it is dry, brown and desolate. Traveling to Georgia or Colorado I see the contrast – the beauty, differences and am thrilled to be experiencing this contrast. 

    What has your pain taught you? How has your pain helped you grow?

    Where do you see the contrast? What does the contrast help you recognize?

    When We Believe The World Isn’t Safe

    When we believe the world isn’t a safe place we create events that scare us and prove the world isn’t safe.

    Abortion and Infant Death

    How can a fetus have created its own abortion? A soul that needs a particular type of experience for its growth comes into alignment with the vibration of the experience it needs. Sometimes, what that soul needs to experience is being rejected, unloved or aborted.

    We experience what we need to learn our lessons so we can grow and evolve. A parent that loses a child needed to learn something about loss, appreciation, and love. We are co-creating together in this Universe, not alone. 

    Why The Law of Attraction Hasn’t Worked For You

    1. You decide what you want.
    2. But you continue to focus on what you don’t want. 
    3. You worry about what you don’t want, continuing to focus your thoughts, fears and emotions on what you don’t want.
    4. You always have a choice and you are choosing to focus on what you don’t want.
    To Create What You Want

    1. Always control your focus. 
    2. Pay attention to your thoughts. 
    3. When your thoughts begin to stray, steer them back to what you want. 
    4. Choose your thoughts wisely.
    5. Don’t allow yourself to wallow in self-pity or resentment because you will perpetuate feelings of unhappiness.
    6. Complaining about your circumstances only highlights and creates more of what you don’t want.
    7. Remember suffering occurs when you focus on unwanted things.

    As we expand through our experiences and change our perspective, so does The Universe. The Universe isn’t stagnant anymore than we are. It is always expanding, always changing. We are meant to grow, expand and experience joy through enlightenment.

    Life is meant to be fun, joyful and happy. If you don’t enjoy the journey taking the time to sniff the roses along the way, you are missing out on many opportunities for fun, play, laughter, and expansion. Our pain and suffering is what causes us to focus on the simple things and find joy through those rather than in material wealth.

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     is a catalyst healer for healing, love  and happiness coach that clears limiting beliefs, blocks and self-sabotage from the past so that you can have the life, love and happiness you desire. A healed healer herself, she helps others overcome anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, insecurities that block you from having healthy relationships and happiness. 

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