What Makes You Happy?
Years ago, my wise son David, asked me, “What makes you happy, mom?” His simple question led to some deep introspection about the subject of happiness. I began to ask questions, lots of them.
I Love Being with My Adults
I love my children, that have grown into adults. I love my time with them. I make the most of our time together without wasting precious moments on things that don’t matter. I end up burning the candle at both ends. I remember my father saying, “You can sleep when you’re dead!” He was always pragmatic.
Enjoy Time Alone
We can enjoy our time alone once we have overcome co-dependency. Solitude is a wonderful place to be to regroup, heal, meditate and find inner peace. There are plenty of things we can enjoy doing alone. I enjoy my time traveling, walking the beach, and doing work of service.
Sadness Isn’t The Same As Depression
Last night, packing and doing laundry by myself alone, I felt sad. I would be boarding my airplane in less than 24 hours leaving my kids behind. I enjoyed my time with them immensely. Now it was time to go back home, to routine, normalcy, and work. The sadness I felt wasn’t depression.
Marianne Williamson was on Bill Maher’s show and mentioned sadness. Many people don’t like the feeling. They think it is depression, but it is not.
It’s Okay To Be Sad
There was no doubt that I felt sad leaving this wonderful time behind. Boulder is a beautiful place filled with wonder, natural beauty, and adventure. I didn’t know when I would see my adults again.
I Feel Sad When…
I feel sad when I leave my adult offspring (family). I feel sad when I have to say good-bye to a beloved pet, friend or parent that has died. I feel sad when my adults are upset with something I have said that hurts them. I feel sad when we have misunderstandings. Sadness helps you navigate toward what makes you feel better.
Don’t Fear The Emotion
Sadness isn’t permanent. Once we become aware of sadness we begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. A deep conversation with our loved ones can lead to understanding and a more evolved level of communication.
I helped my daughter, Ariel move, set up her bed and then colored her hair bright magenta. We connected, talked and enjoyed one another’s company. Leaving her behind was sometimes gut-wrenching. I knew she was struggling in life. Sometimes not being so close in proximity makes it easier for our young adults to overcome the obstacles without us witnessing the process.
Feel The Emotion Fully
You can quickly move through emotion by acknowledging it. Notice the feeling. Even say, “hello sadness. I feel you.” Crying is okay. There is no shame in feeling emotion. In fact, feeling emotion is far better and healthier than being numb and feeling nothing. Numbness is something we feel after stuffing emotions deep inside with alcohol, ice cream, and other substances.
Consequently, emotions will pass through us if we allow them to be felt. Ignoring feelings isn’t healthy. Stuffing emotions makes us numb. Using ice cream or substances to resist feeling something causes us more pain and suffering.
We Are Humans, We Feel Deeply When We Awaken
As a result of deep inner work the more deeply we feel.
We want to come from a neutral state of mind without judgment. Compassion and love are what we need. The more we tap into who we are, the better our lives become. Transformation is the goal. Step by step and little by little. Our lives become better as we let go of the need to be right, the silly mind games we play with ourselves. Love is the answer. No matter the question. I love my kids. They show me who I am by the loving conversations we have. Each of us is in a state of learning. Our children are our greatest teachers. The breadcrumbs we leave along the path are the ones they pick up and run with. We become the guiding lights for those that follow behind us. No matter how old we are our little inner children need our love and compassion. Allow yourself to feel the sadness and watch it just fall away as you walk more gently on the earth living life fully.
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