January is the month of guilt. You may have gotten into the spirit of Christmas or Chanukah and bought more than you expected. Whether it was the airline ticket, the X-box or computer you lovingly bought for someone, you probably now feel guilt and regret. You may have eaten all your mother’s Christmas cookies because she made them for you like I did.
Whether it is a ten-pound weight gain, credit card bills or not having enough cash to pay your bills in January, guilt and regret are our predominant emotions. Regret for past actions is the subject of my blog today. I will help you overcome the negative feelings you have now for doing what you thought was a good thing in December.
Why Did We Do It?
You spent the money because it felt joyful at the time. I can relate. I bought a plane ticket at the last minute to Toronto to spend Christmas with my mother. I left my 19-year-old daughter to spend Christmas alone. Talk about regret! Why did I do it? My mother is 93, going on 94. How many Christmases does she have left? That was my motivation. I did it for her. I felt torn about leaving my daughter behind in her brand-new apartment. She didn’t want to go, but that was beside the point.
Between dog boarding and cat sitting, I spent over $1,000 on this trip. Regret for past behavior was a biggie for me in my healing of my story, especially where my mother is concerned. I have not felt regret in many years. It was a shocker to me to experience it once I arrived at home. I have since allowed these feelings to wash over me and recognize that I made the best choice at the time. What’s done is done. We move on and let it go. Regret is a waste of time, just like worry. It does us no good to regret something we did yesterday. We just can’t ignore a feeling when it surfaces. Old Issues Revisited? What I have noticed is that old issues have been coming back in waves washing over us. Most of my clients related that they have had similar experiences. We have the opportunity to revisit our old issues and recognize that we have moved beyond it, only to feel what it feels like all over again. After we experience the old feeling, we are able to see how far we have come in our healing. Have gratitude for the process, the growth and being alive!
What Does Regret Do To You?
No matter what you feel regret over, it is not helping you. In fact, regret is one of the lowest vibrational emotions that we have. Just look at the face on this sweet dog above. He feels shame. If you have had any sexual trauma or abuse in the past, shame is one of the hardest emotions to conquer. Often one or both of our parents was masterful at eliciting shame or guilt from us. If this is the case, some of the reasons for our behavior relates to past shame and guilt. I performed a clearing to remove this pattern and felt better immediately.
Negative emotions such as guilt, shame, and regret cause us stress in our body. Our stomach tightens, we might even get heartburn (which is a result of fear) or other physical symptoms. Stress is a killer. Stress leads to serious illnesses like cardiovascular disease, high blood pressure, depression, anxiety, insomnia. Fear Fear is what we feel when we are concerned about what will happen when we don’t pay our bills on time. Fear is what escalates and blocks us from our joy. Fear stops us from having good things in our lives. Fear creates stress in our body. We can’t manifest anything positive when we are in fear. When we are in fear we are absolutely, positively not in faith. We have no faith that we will get out of our present situation.
We worry about things that rarely occur. These worrisome thoughts range from, “I don’t have enough to make my rent or mortgage payment, ” to “I don’t know what I am going to do!” These thoughts further escalate the way we feel, taking us down into a spiral of negativity that branches out into our workplace, relationships and ability to manifest positive effects. Focus on the negative only brings more negativity.
How Do We Get Over Shame and Regret?
The easiest way is to have the emotions cleared from your field. In less than thirty minutes you will feel lighter, more positive and hopeful about your future. Barring an energy clearing, you can shift your thoughts to more positive things. Focus instead on the good you did. Focus on how you felt when you made the purchases. Re-trace your steps and see how you can avoid repeating the same thing next year.
Beating yourself up is not beneficial. Besides causing stress to your physical body, your emotional body takes a big hit as well. There is nothing positive that comes out of you thinking you are a piece of crap or believing that you aren’t a good person or ___________ fill in the blank. Here are a few suggestions to get yourself out of this spiral.
Find the silver lining. In every situation, there is a silver lining. You just have to look for it.
Let go of the regret. Think of something else to shift your focus that makes you feel good.
Play upbeat music. Nothing shifts your mood faster than music (or an energy clearing). Music soothes the soul – depending on the song and genre you choose. I like Billy Ocean, Earth, Wind and Fire, ColdPlay, Michael Jackson, Journey, believe it or not, even AC/DC.
Get up and dance. Move your body. The movement will shift your vibration quickly.
Get outside. Nature, trees, the sunshine even rain on your face will shift your vibration fast.
Hug a tree and ask the tree to take your burdens away. Seriously! Don’t knock it till you have tried it!
So What Did I do?
I stopped beating myself up. I cleared my energy field, twice. Then I got my ass up off the couch where I was feeling horrible, took my dogs for a walk in the cold and danced to Billy Ocean. Yup! That’s what I did. I did it all. If you care enough about yourself, you will do something positive and get out of your low vibrational pity party.
ENERGY CLEARING THIS WEDNESDAY!
Just for you! I am being guided to offer an energy clearing at a recommended cost of $25. No one will be turned away if you can’t afford it! You may pay what you like and if you feel it was worth more, drop a love offering into my PayMe Now Paypal account. If $10.00 is what you can afford, send me $10.00. You will feel so much better after the clearing! You are on the honor system; this is between you and The Universe. Just DO IT! No excuses! Check out this energy clearing – you won’t be sorry. All I ask is that you tell your friends. This is a powerful healing method that allows the negative emotions to be removed, and you will feel:
I cleared a teenager on New Year’s Eve. Before the clearing, he was irritable, emotional and unfocused. Within fifteen minutes of the clearing, his grandmother noticed how completely different he was.
She knew nothing about his clearing. This stuff works! If you have never gotten an energy clearing – do yourself a favor and DO IT! No excuses!
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