Nearly two thirds of women think they have had an orgasm, but aren’t sure. If you think you had one, but aren’t completely sure, you probably didn’t. When you do, you will KNOW IT! Sadly many women get to the end of their lives without ever knowing the amazing feeling of an orgasm. The purpose of this blog is to make sure that woman isn’t you!
As sexual tension builds in a woman’s body, her nipples may become erect, her breathing changes, she may become silent. The pelvis and vagina become intensely alive, the clitoris changes shape and becomes erect. The labia and vagina become elongated and the uterus
changes position. Blood flow increases in the pelvic region which engorges the clitoris, labia, vagina and the G-spot. A tingling sensation begins to move upwards through the body from the perineum, sometimes with spasms in the anus, always in the vagina and throughout the body.
Your Brain On Orgasm
Waves of intense pleasure surge upward all the way through the central column (spinal column) into the frontal cortex of the brain, releasing pleasure hormones, that reduce the sensation of pain, increasing sensitivity in all areas of the body. An MRI study shows how 80 centers of the brain light up like fireworks in the night sky, at the time of orgasm for women.
Pulsing waves of pleasure continue moving downward after the culmination in the brain, that can be felt in the face, neck, arms, breasts, thighs and pelvis and feet. Her legs might twitch, tense and the toes may curl and release. Oxytocin is released from the brain (the cuddle or God hormone), which can leave the woman with the
“in love” feeling. Oxytocin causes women to trust or bond with their sex partner, often when they shouldn’t. Which is why so many experts recommend waiting to have sex until you have an established loving relationship.
This increased oxygen flow can leave the chest and face feeling flushed, radiant and alive. The face flush can be a dead giveaway for sex (remember those teenage years?) The vagina and body may jerk involuntarily as the waves of pleasure move and subside. She may smile, sigh or even erupt in tears with the tension release occurring. Many women report having the feeling of being in touch with a higher power in the throws of orgasm.
Multiple orgasms are a continued flow of energy upward and downward throughout the body. Wave after wave of pleasure ebbs and flows. Multiple orgasms can be more body focused, than genital, with undulating body movements and jerky limbs. Some women can allow continued stimulation during her orgasm to continue. More often than not, a woman’s body is so highly sensitized at this point that even the slightest touch could send her body into involuntary convulsions and jerky motions. Some women have such an intense release that they black out or feel faint after orgasm. This is why the French call an orgasm la petite mort, “Little Death.“
Some intense orgasms can actually cause cramping in the colon, rectum and anus. This can be caused by lactose intolerance, constipation or other issues. When I experienced this, it was due to pizza as melted cheese is especially difficult to digest. Pizza is off my diet plan, as I prefer pain free orgasms!
When a woman is having an orgasm she may want all stimulation to stop, as her clitoris, nipples and abdomen can become highly sensitive. Oxytocin is released which flows through the body giving her an intoxicated feeling of mellow enjoyment and bliss.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. Her expertise lies in addiction, codependency and self esteem. Her work helps you let go of the need to be perfect, anxiety, depression, control and fears. Her first book, Odyssey Victim To Victory is the story of her personal journey and recovery from severe health issues, negativity and all of the above.
Need help getting to the big “O?” I
provide personal coaching for women that have difficulty getting there. I will tell you this, once I completely loved myself and was happy with the way I looked, orgasms became easy! I also have a section on sexual healing from trauma in my book, Orgasm For Life.