Give into love or live in fear. Johnathan Larson “Rent”
Everywhere I go, I hear the same refrain, “What I am looking for is THE ONE!” Even today while tying my shoes at the gym, I chatted with a woman in her late 40’s. She told me, “I have not yet found THE ONE.” Her life would be complete with this one person. My clients come to me looking for a loving relationship. What do all these people have in common?
It seems like a cruel joke that you can’t find love when you aren’t loving or accepting of yourself. To magnetize love to you, fill yourself with love. Rather than beating yourself up, soften your
gaze. Shift your focus to being enough, rather than imperfect. When we try to be perfect, we can’t help but fall short. Instead, be the best you – that you can be.
Be the love you wish to have. A version of Gandhi’s quote
Loving you completely shifts your paradigm. When you try to attract someone from a place of lack, you will find that the type of person you attract is also coming to you with a love tank that is empty. When we lovingly accept ourselves, we emit a different energy. We emit the vibration of joy, love, bliss, happiness and what we want to draw in; LOVE!
2. You Criticise Others. When we criticise others, we have difficulty accepting ourselves as we are. Generally, people who condemn others are equally negative about themselves. When we focus on other’s faults, that is all we see. Focusing on faults rather than the beauty in each person closes our hearts to love. Choose to love and accept yourself the way you are. When you love and accept yourself, you will also accept others the way they are, rather than trying to change, or fix them.
3. You try to control others. As much as we might want to make others do our bidding, we can’t. We cannot control anyone else but us. Control comes from fear. You can’t be in love and fear at the same time. Let go of the need to control. You will find that you have a lot more fun and more loving relationships.
4. You complain. The more we complain, the more chaos and drama we draw into our lives. When we complain, our hearts are closed. When we are complaining, we are not grateful for what we do have. Complaining keeps good things from coming to you, like loving partnerships. When we complain, we most likely live in a negative perspective. Everything that is bad is drawn to you, or it seems this way. You might even find yourself asking, “What else could go wrong.” You might even be sick a lot, have body aches or pains, insomnia.
5. You expect others to make you happy. I know this sounds strange, but when we expect others to make us happy, we don’t take personal responsibility for ourselves. No one can make you happy but you. Expecting others to do anything sets them up for failure. High expectations mean we will always be disappointed. Going with the flow and allowing life to unfold rather than expecting people to do certain things for you will help you relax into life, rather than always disappointed from it.
Self-love is the cornerstone of my work. When we love ourselves, all our relationships become so much easier. Life begins to be one of ease. We stop battling with everyone. Our inner conflict disappears and we find more joy in life. With our soul purpose, we
feel fulfilled with our work. Love is joyous. Sex is so much more enjoyable. Life is fun rather than drudgery. If you are ready to live the life you always wanted, e-mail me for a private self-discovery session for FREE. It may be the best 30 minutes of your life!