By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
When does making love too much become an obsession or addiction? How do we know we are not in a balanced, healthy relationship? What is the difference between sex addiction and a “normal sex drive?”
Sexual Addiction is Progressive
You might have to increase activities, take bigger risks to get the same rush you used to get with what most people would call “normal sex.” Sex feels good. It is natural and normal to have sex and enjoy it. That in itself is not harmful. When sex becomes a compulsion that causes suffering to others, then it has become addictive. If you have to keep amping up your behavior and risk taking to keep things exciting for you, or you are disconnecting from intimacy through your experience, you have a sexual addiction.
Does This Apply To You?
- Are you preoccupied with sexual thoughts, desires or compulsions?
- Are your sexual behaviors getting in the way of productive work, or financial obligations?
- Are your sexual behaviors keeping you from having a deep connection with your partner?
- Do you feel desensitized to sex with a partner?
- Have a compulsion to masturbate and it interferes with your life or work.
- Addicted to porn.
- Have to watch porn to get off.
- Feel desensitized to sex with a partner.
- Fantasies pervade your sexual experience with a partner.
- Paying for sex.
- Voyeuristic sex. The need to look on while others are performing sex acts.
- Dangerous sexual experiences, looking for the latest rush or charge.
- Have the need to be humiliated during sex, before sex or humiliation is part of the stimulation prior to sex.
- High risk sex. Either dangerous and life threatening or situations involve high risk.
- You need to exploit the person you are having sex with.
- Boundary violation is part of your arousal.
- You may be an exhibitionist, needing to expose yourself as part of the arousal process.