This is my rant….
Here are some things that really light a fire under my ass, not in a good way! I often talk about lighting a firecracker under your ass to get you out of your easy chair. But, this is different than that kind of fire under your ass. Some people are gullible and will buy anything that sounds good.
Just to catch you up, I wrote a post two days ago, about sexual desire being sacred. Couples are being taught how to digitally stimulate your female partner’s clitoris with a gloved hand, ala Michael Jackson? In pursuit of a “sense of orgasm,” rather than an orgasm itself. They use the buzzword “OMing” (which I feel uses the sacred OM in vain). One partner stimulates the clitoris and you are on the clock for 15 minutes, (it was formerly 13 minutes) without bringing you to orgasm. GASP!
The OM CONTAINER? Now you need a larger container to masturbate in? What the heck? You need a container to masturbate in now? Maybe I misunderstood and they said, “chamber,”as in torture, chamber? Since you only have 13 minutes. Oh, they did add 2 more minutes to the timer for those that are more challenged. What about those who need 40. Is this just an exercise in frustration for them? If you need someone standing over your shoulder telling you must do it THEIR WAY. They may enjoy self torture, but do you have to?
It’s About Connection, But Isn’t Sex ?
Like I said in my book, if it involves genitals it is sex. It is not about connection when your partner sits fully clothed above you, looking down on you with a latex glove on their hand. Bill Clinton, again you come to mind. When a boy is rubbing your daughter’s clitoris will you also think that is all about connection, not sex? What message are you creating here for teens?
The Bigger Issue
Over 43% of women have a difficult time coming to orgasm at all. This type of “training,” further imprints the brain and body to stop before you get to orgasm. Most women need 20 – 40 minutes of manual stimulation to reach orgasm. So you can see where the no happy ending on a continual basis could perpetuate a problem that has had little education, understanding or knowledge.
It isn’t okay, that women continue to have issues with orgasm. It leads to frustrated women not wanting to have sex with their partners. Sex has been historically one-sided for hundreds of years.