By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
I believe in love. I also believe that our dreams do come true. I recently watched the movie Grace of Monaco. I have watched this movie now three times. Why? General Charles De Gaulle called Princess Grace the American Aphrodite. We can all learn lessons about love, commitment and doing the difficult things to make a relationship work.
Princess Grace was beautiful, soft, loving, compassionate. She adored her husband, and he adored her. Her family came first. She always had her husband’s back, even coming to his aid changing the events in history by holding a ball in honor of The Red Cross. She invited Charles De Gaulle, who was trying to overthrow Monaco. She did not fight; she did not yell. She did not argue. She spoke softly, with loving compassion and changed the course of history.
What Does This Story Have To Do With YOU?
We have the power to change the course of our lives. It takes intention, focus and love. If you don’t love you, you will critique your loved one. If you don’t trust you, you will not trust your loved one. Love has to come from you first. You are the one that needs to love you. When you love and accept yourself completely, you will be more loving, accepting, positive and compassionate with your partner. You will also be able to receive love. Many of us have been hurt. Wounded people have difficulty receiving love and push it away in many different ways.
Pushing Love Away
When we judge our partners, we push love away. If we critique our partners, we push love away. If we complain about our life or partners, we avoid love and happiness.
When your partner comes home, do you embrace him, give him a big hug and kiss? Or her? Or do you avoid physical contact at any cost? Touch is a loving part of a relationship. If you push physical contact away, you don’t love you. It is not your partner’s fault. Don’t blame them for what they haven’t done for you. Express your feelings compassionately. Speak about what is upsetting you without blame. You can’t expect someone to read your mind if you don’t tell them what is going on inside of you.
Your Thoughts Change The Course Of History
Fighting, arguing, blaming will not get you to happiness. Being miserable with your life, will not allow you to find love. Changing the way you think, shifting beliefs, and patterns are all work I do with my clients.
I know several women who are adored by their husbands, but their wives treat them as if they were yesterday’s bread. In June, I attended a wedding and witnessed a beautiful wedding. I remarked to my date that I gave them two years before she would divorce him. Why? He adored her. She was not giving adoration back to him. He loved her, but she didn’t love herself. She doubted, was jealous and insecure. Within less than six months, she is bored with her marriage and focuses on others when they are together. He was sitting with her focusing on her while she texted her friends.
If you aren’t happy with your life or yourself, no one can make you happy. If you love yourself, are authentic, compassionate and soft, you will find the love you seek. I can help you remove whatever is blocking you.
If you bash, berate, nag or complain about your partner, you will find love will disappear.
Love is possible, but it has to begin with you. A beautiful marriage or partnership is possible, but you have to give. You have to be compassionate, understanding, loyal, supportive and honest. If you dream about a beautiful wedding, but don’t love yourself, you will be unhappy soon after the confetti is picked up and the flowers are wilted.
Love begins and ends with you. Loving yourself is the first step in attracting love to you. You become a magnet for love. Sex is a part of love. If you don’t want to have sex with your partner, expect that he will want sex with someone else. Sex is a loving part of a partnership or marriage.
- Stop critiquing and judging yourself and others.
- Accept all parts of you, lovingly.
- You are already enough.
- Your thoughts create. Notice what you are thinking. Focus on the positive.
- Stop complaining. It doesn’t bring you, love.
- Notice where your focus is. Do you love you? Are you compassionate with you and others?
- Are you grateful for what you have? Gratitude is the fastest way to open your heart. It raises your vibration. If you aren’t happy with what you have, and grateful for it, you won’t get anything better than what is in your life right now. Gratitude is the fuel for love. Be grateful starting right now for the small things: your health, your life, a paycheck, a job, food on the table, friends, the rain, the sunshine.
- The more loving and accepting you are with you, the better your life will be. You can’t love another if you can’t stand being alone with you.
E-mail me if you have questions or would like to book a discovery session. If you aren’t prepared to do deep work or do homework or self-discovery, I am not the right person for you. The work I do is powerful, life-changing. I will be direct, compassionate with you, but you have to do the work to be happy, love yourself and your life. Visit my website to read more about my offerings, JumpStart Happiness programs, or Aphrodite Effect programs.