Our need to be loved is an all pervasive one that prevails until the day we die. When we are born, we are totally dependent on our parents for food, care, nurturing and love. If we didn’t get everything we needed as infants and children, our need for love, nurturing and validation continues.
U the reason why love and compassion bring us the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. Dali Lama
Love is the core of our being. It results from an interdependence on one another. Interdependence is the foundational law of nature. It isn’t just higher forms of intelligence that rely on each other. Insects rely on communities to survive. The smallest of insects are social beings; it is through interconnectedness and working together that they survive.
Humans need an interconnection with others to survive. Think of the mighty oceans, rivers and streams, clouds, forests, and plants that surround us are all interdependent upon others to survive. Even those that are mightily independent need the support of others at the end of their lives and at times of great sadness or illness.
The requirement for love continues as children grow. Children need to be held, nurtured and loved they grow up or mental and emotional difficulties result, which can cause challenges throughout their lives. A lifetime of emotional hardship results when children grow up with addicted parents, or are abused or molested which creates depression, numbness and low self-esteem, even sex addiction, which is so sad. Many children feel angry because of their mistreatment, but don’t know what to do with this anger.
When they show up in school, teachers nurture and assist these children growing up. So many children are growing up in broken homes, losing parents or without love and emotional support. In many households, technology is the babysitter. Televisions and cell phones with games do not provide the nurturing, acceptance and love that human contact and hugs do. We see mothers in grocery stores with a cell phone stuck to their heads ignoring the needs of their crying children.
Our children need us to love them. Borderline Personality is created by abandonment issues, left untreated cause distress on the entire family unit.
Since we are so dependent on others, we need love, compassion and a sense of responsibility and genuine concern for the welfare of others. We aren’t machines without feelings. We can’t be filled and contented with material goods, wealth, and success alone. It is our interconnectedness that gives us our feelings of security and sense of belonging.
Spend some time today sitting in quiet. Think about all the wonderful qualities that you have. What gifts do you share with the world? How are you unique and special? Be grateful for who you are and what you have right now.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- What are ten things you love about you?
- What are ten things you love to do?
- What are you passionate about?
- What brings you happiness?
- How can you nurture and love yourself on a daily basis?
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