Happiness can be found in a flash. All we have to do is find a way to laugh at life. I have a client who often sings the song from Monty Python’s The Life of Brian, “Always’ look on the bright side of life! “Life’s a piece of shit when you think of it!”
Always look at the bright side of life. When we keep looking over our shoulder at (the shit) what we didn’t do or who we married and shouldn’t we live in regret. Regret is one of the biggest happiness killers of all. Following are three life hacks to move you into happiness. (How do I know? you ask? I was depressed and miserable for three decades. I am an expert on overcoming past trauma and misery so you can live in joy and thrive!
Life Hack Number One!
Regret The Biggest Happiness Killer
For some reason, we seem to think that repeatedly looking at events in our life regretting the one we let get away, or the one we married, the mistakes we made and then wonder why am I not happy? We might as well stick a fork in our eye for all the joy this thought process brings.
Regret Is Self-Abuse
Women are excellent self-abusers. If we spent half the energy focusing on the good in our lives, we would be twice as happy right now. It is a simple shift of focus once we recognize we are killing the joy in our life. You don’t want to be a kill-joy!
When I began my journey to end the suffering in my life, regret was the one thing that gave me the greatest results. I discovered that letting go of regret was like losing a hundred pound weight I was dragging around with me. Can you imagine what it would feel like to drop 100 pounds? Lighten up! Let it go. Commit to yourself to stop the self-abuse and focus on the good instead.
Your Greatest Problem
It is you! Yup! You have the power to stop abusing yourself, and turn your thoughts to something positive. Why haven’t you done it thus far? You did’t realize that you werr robbing yourself of joy. You THOUGHT you were being a good person focusing on regret.
It’s Not Your Fault
You just didn’t know. It is not your fault if you didn’t know. If we don’t know or understand something, we can’t change it. In just over two mintues, you have a much greater understanding of how you kept happiness at bay. Just commit to changing your focus. The next time your thoughts trail off into regret-land, lovingly encourage them to remember the happiest time in your life. Even if it was looking up at the gorgeous sunset, or a blooming Azalea. Focus on the happy memory.
Life Hack Number Two
Negative self-talk robs your joy and depletes your life force. If you were criticized as a child, it is likely that you self-parent by critiquing. You might even be critical of others not just yourself.
When I wanted to make a change from a deeply ingrained pattern, I wore a thick rubber band on my left wrist. Every time that I returned to a negative thought about myself, I twinged the rubber band. By the end of the first day, you guessed it, my wrist was bright red! Holy cow Batman! I was the most negative woman on the planet. I was a slow learner…. I wore the rubber band for nearly two weeks!
- you need a pattern interrupt to make powerful changes
- you can’t do it all alone
- wear the rubber band and be honest with yourself
- stop lying to yourself about how much you love yourself
- the proof is in the pudding and your pudding is life
- if you aren’t happy then you need to change old patterns that no longer serve you
Number 3 Life Hack To Happiness Not Being True To You
- Not being able to speak your truth
- Agreeing with others so they like you
- Not wanting to rock the boat – staying silent
- Going along with another’s plan to have a date, relationship or marriage
- Getting rid of pets, children or family members to please our partner
My life wasn’t pretty. I did everyone of the above list. So there is no need for you to be ashamed. I did it all! I wanted so badly to be loved that I nearly sold my soul to have what I thought was love (an abusive relationship or four).
Once we become aware of what we are doing, life starts to change. It took me over thirty years to get to this place of being self-realized and happy with me. What I will tell you is that you are worth it. You are worth investing your time, energy, and money in! How much longer are you willing to continue alone, doing life and your business the same way?
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